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The seven habits of highly confident people

Marcie Buxton
By Marcie Buxton

Mentor, Cherie Blair Foundation

This post originally appeared at LinkedIn. Follow the author here.

Confidence is crucial to a happy and fulfilling life. It influences your success in leadership, how you engage with your team, and at work in general. It influences how you build your business, how you are in your family life, relationships and leisure activities. The list goes on. Confidence affects your performance and who you are in all you do.

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. (Henry David Thoreau)

Here are seven habits of highly confident people you can practice to increase your confidence level and become more at ease with your authentic self.

1.Accepting personal responsibility

Confident people accept responsibility for their lives, their decisions, and their behaviors. This means they understand that when it’s all said and done, they are responsible for the choices they have made and the life they have led.

Confident people understand that they may not always have control over what happens in their lives but they do have control over their responses. They take responsibility for how they respond to life.

2. Acting in spite of their fears

That’s what courage is. We all have fears—fear of failure, fear of not measuring up, fear of appearing stupid. It’s part of the human condition. We all like to succeed, don’t we? I know I do. And yet, it is the fear of failure that keeps many people from living fully, from claiming their personal power.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. (Eleanor Roosevelt)

Confident people are willing to step out of their comfort zone and give their best shot to something new, in spite of their anxieties or fears.

3. Having tolerance for others

We all lose our patience with friends, families, and even strangers at one time or another. I have seen this on many occasions over this time leading up to the Christmas holiday season! Again, that’s human nature. But the confident person values others and instead of being put off by their errors confident people are willing to lend support, give constructive feedback, or sometimes just give another person a hand up.

4. Giving praise and recognition to others

Confident people don’t take all the credit. They willingly share the credit. Confident people recognise that rarely does something positive happen based solely on one person’s efforts. They appreciate those that are often behind the scenes.

Habit number 5 may sound a little contradictory on the heels of habit 4—but I think it’s important that this habit gets its due attention.

5. Being proud of a job well done and accepting of recognition

This does not mean that confident people are boastful—in fact, boasting is a sure sign of lack of confidence. No, what this means is that confident people accept recognition and praise for a job well done, an effort well made, and a success well earned. They do with a heartfelt and engaging, “Thank you.”

6. Having goals

Confident people realize that life is a work in progress and that opportunities abound for success and self-fulfillment. Confident people are not afraid to set goals, make plans and then take steps to reach their goals. They also understand there will be some challenges and setbacks, and adjustments will have to be made. They are constantly re-evaluating and adjusting to get to where they want to go.

7. Not being afraid to stand for something

They understand that values are tested at every turn of life, but confident people place their beliefs above their need to be liked by everyone. Of course, it’s nice to be liked by everyone, but the reality is that staying true to our beliefs and values is not always the popular decision. Confident people are generally willing to compromise, but not their values. And that is one of the main reasons that we respect people with confidence.

Make 2015 the year you express who you truly are and pursue your heart’s desire without restriction set by others or yourself.

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