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Discussing the news like we discuss the weather, and other German habits

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This question originally appeared on Quora: What are some German habits? Answer by Judith Meyer, Berlin-based polyglot and web developer.

Bringing flowers when visiting someone

As long as the flowers are a colorful bouquet (or even a pretty potted plant) and not just roses, this won’t necessarily be interpreted as a romantic gesture. Bring flowers when visiting elderly people in particular; parent-age people may also find a bottle of good wine or a box of expensive chocolates acceptable. Never come empty-handed. If going to a student party, you might bring something very cheap like a salty snack or a bottle of soda, but never come empty-handed.

Flowers are traditionally given to women. If visiting a work colleague at his home, you’d give the flowers to his wife (the lady of the house). I believe this is because traditionally the wife had to do the work of preparing for a guest.

Flowers are also often gifted by superiors as a form of recognition, for example for a woman’s work anniversary, for women volunteers at an event, for female talk show guests or for female passersby  on Mother’s Day.

Apologizing for being late

In Germany, punctuality is seen very strictly: people generally expect an apology even if you’re just two minutes late. And this happens quite often because not all Germans are good at being punctual.

Asking for the window or door to be shut

German windows are a wonder of technology: they can be opened partially (as in the photo) as well as completely (sideways). However, if you even partially open the window and there is another open window/door somewhere, some Germans will start to complain about the draft of air coming through. Sitting in the draft is believed to cause colds, so people are quick to request the window to be shut.

Lecturing people at the red light

If you’re a pedestrian trying to cross the street on a red light, no matter if there are no cars in sight, be prepared to be lectured (and sometimes physically restrained) by any elderly German lady or parent with kids.

Separating trash

Since environmentalism is big in Germany, it’s important to separate different kinds of trash so that they may be recycled. In a typical household you’ll find trash cans for paper, recyclable packaging, organic waste, and “other,” while glass (separated into white/green/brown glass) is collected in big containers you can find nearby. Most glass bottles now have Pfand, meaning that you initially pay an extra fee which you will get back when/if you return the bottle to the store.

Respecting authority

Kurt Tucholsky (a German thinker) said it best: “The German nightmare is to stand in front of a counter, the German dream is to sit behind a counter.”

Germans have a lot of respect for authorities, including:
1) Those given power (bureaucrats, policemen) and
2) Those who have authoritative knowledge of their field (teachers, doctors, lawyers)

Politicians, on the other hand, are given no respect; any American lawyer joke is a politician joke in Germany.

Talking about the news

It is assumed that everyone has been watching the news (or are too ashamed to admit if they haven’t), so the news are a safe topic to discuss with anyone, including strangers on the street. They’re kind of like the weather. There is little chance of offending anyone or getting into a heated argument because the consensus is that all German politicians are shitty and we’re all just voting for the least bad choice—”Wahl zwischen Pest und Cholera“—”A choice between falling prey to either pestilence or cholera” is how we say it in German.

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