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Why Your Second Child Isn't Any Easier

By OZY

Australian researchers have taken on the "economy of scale" argument to family planningRead full story

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  • Seriously? If anyone ever told you your second child ( first, third or fourth ) will be easier, drop them as a life coach. A different hard each time and IMO so very worth it every time .

  • When I was expecting our 2nd child our family doctor (small town GP) told me that each child was 100% more work. While we were trying to avoid making the same mistakes, we just made new ones. Our 3rd child reinforced these statements. But then, we didn't have to be perfect parents, our kids didn't have

    When I was expecting our 2nd child our family doctor (small town GP) told me that each child was 100% more work. While we were trying to avoid making the same mistakes, we just made new ones. Our 3rd child reinforced these statements. But then, we didn't have to be perfect parents, our kids didn't have to have everything & the whole world wasn't telling us how to raise them. All 3 turned out OK. Useful, productive, caring human beings. So far so good.

  • It’s harder. You have to go from zonal defence to man-marking.

  • Things get far more complex when 2v1 becomes 2v2 and your "opponents" get to an age where they actually have meetings to plan their collusion. The evil genius of teenagers knows no bounds.

  • When you lose the advantage of asymmetrical warfare, parenting steps up a notch for sure.

  • Yes this reinforces my experience. Levels of anxiety during the second pregnancy were just as high (for me) as the first. And the logistics associated with child care definitely squared. Also, at least for me, it now comes with guilt realizing that my second doesn’t get the sort of undivided attention

    Yes this reinforces my experience. Levels of anxiety during the second pregnancy were just as high (for me) as the first. And the logistics associated with child care definitely squared. Also, at least for me, it now comes with guilt realizing that my second doesn’t get the sort of undivided attention the first got. This makes me sad 😞

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