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As a Mom of Boys...I’m Doing My Best to Raise Feminists

By Good Housekeeping

I knew I’d have to teach my sons manners. But in 2019, there's so much more to worry about than saying 'please' and 'thank youRead full story

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  • Boys will be (what we teach them). When it comes to raising our boys, it's up to us to change the culture. We need to let them feel their emotions, be kind, be vulnerable. Let them be human

  • Just raise good kids and they’ll be feminists. As a man, I judge every woman I meet against the standards set by the good (and bad) behaviours of the women who raised me. Boys don’t need to be told to be feminists, they need good mothers.

  • If you replaced the word ‘feminists’ with ‘male allies’ or even just ‘advocates of fairness’ then the comments on this page wouldn’t be so polarised.

    Anyone in their right mind can agree 100% with what this mum is doing - bringing up kids who are aware of their privilege and use it to fight for the

    If you replaced the word ‘feminists’ with ‘male allies’ or even just ‘advocates of fairness’ then the comments on this page wouldn’t be so polarised.

    Anyone in their right mind can agree 100% with what this mum is doing - bringing up kids who are aware of their privilege and use it to fight for the rights of those who don’t have the same. Seriously, take aside the social issues she references, and who can disagree with that principle?

    But plonk the word ‘feminist’ in there and we all go a bit nuts.

  • I'm not totally sure what I'm "supposed" to be as a man in 2019. I can't imagine being a boy. On one hand, I was the three sport athlete, football captain, played football and rugby in college, and spent 4 years in the USMC Infantry. I was taught that stoicism, pride, commitment, and integrity were the

    I'm not totally sure what I'm "supposed" to be as a man in 2019. I can't imagine being a boy. On one hand, I was the three sport athlete, football captain, played football and rugby in college, and spent 4 years in the USMC Infantry. I was taught that stoicism, pride, commitment, and integrity were the most important attributes I could have. On the other, I love Star Wars, I've read LOTR and I loved The Silmarillion; I want to be a listening ear when my wife needs it, I do everything I can to support her career, and if I have daughters one day, woe to the first person to tell them that girls don't like math, can't be president, or can't try out for the football team. At the end of the day, though, my boys can't carry, birth, and be a mother to a child, and my girls will never play in the NFL. But you know what? That's okay. We should treat each other as equals, as individuals. We should celebrate our differences. We should accept each others' weaknesses, and celebrate each others' strengths. There's nothing wrong with the fact that boys and girls, at the end of the day, are different. Boys will boys; they will fight in the mud, they'll drive fast, and they'll probably struggle to express their feelings. These are all things we need to teach them to grow out of, but they all provide necessary outlets and learning experiences for boys that feminizing them will not. We need to let boys be boys again.

  • Even though I have no children of my own, this article resonated with me. A child of the ‘80s and 90s, I was raised to look past the color of others skin, their religious beliefs, and later in life their sexuality. We are all human beings who deserve to be happy.

    I am glad to know that parents today

    Even though I have no children of my own, this article resonated with me. A child of the ‘80s and 90s, I was raised to look past the color of others skin, their religious beliefs, and later in life their sexuality. We are all human beings who deserve to be happy.

    I am glad to know that parents today are not only instilling these beliefs in their children, but also educating them that what makes others different impacts their rights and they should use their privilege to become an ally for others. We should all be advocating for others to help end discrimination of those different than us.

  • The future will be interesting, China is seriously addressing what they feel is a serious problem of a drastic lack of masculinity in society and is considered a threat to national security, they don’t like the influence of Pop Stars from Japan & South Korea as so many of the males are effeminate, I’m

    The future will be interesting, China is seriously addressing what they feel is a serious problem of a drastic lack of masculinity in society and is considered a threat to national security, they don’t like the influence of Pop Stars from Japan & South Korea as so many of the males are effeminate, I’m 66 yrs of age and when I’m with my wife shopping I’m really amazed how many young guys walk, dress & talk like girls , if I have a question I don’t know how to address them ? hey whatever the reason Is this our “ brave new world “ ? I find it disconcerting as to express this as a concern gets many people to say I’m discriminating why is this so prevalent now more than ever ? You know a guy can be extremely masculine and gentle , kind & well mannered ?

  • Sorry Mom, but you cant teach boys how to be men. Like all White, liberal, feminist apologists, your going to teach boys to be women (feminist indoctrination). I love that this wonderful family has no male role model, guess Mom runs the show. Don't worry mom, you'll get your two daughters.

  • I'm a trans-woman. Our father died when I was only 8 years old. I was raised in a home with a strong, but sweet and supportive, mother and three older sisters...

    My VA therapist, whom I've known for 15 years, asked me if I thought I was born trans, or my childhood environment 'made' me trans.

    I thought

    I'm a trans-woman. Our father died when I was only 8 years old. I was raised in a home with a strong, but sweet and supportive, mother and three older sisters...

    My VA therapist, whom I've known for 15 years, asked me if I thought I was born trans, or my childhood environment 'made' me trans.

    I thought about it for a moment, said,"It doesn't matter. The result is the same, and I'm not mad about it."

    When I was still pretending, furiously, to be a "man", I was a perfect gentleman, with great respect for women.

    I have what some call, "passing privilege", no one knows that I'm trans, unless I tell them. I get all of the same treatment, in my daily life that any other woman gets. I get mansplained to. My opinions are dismissed by men, a condescending smile is my 'reward'. I often chair,(lead), the women's meeting of a twelve-step group,(in eastern NC!).

    While not 'radical', I am definitely a feminist! Oh, btw, my therapist is of the opinion that I was definitely 'born this way'.

    The arrogance and 'superior' attitude of many,(not all), men is an ongoing problem for everyone. Poor things, they don't know what they're missing...

    Fully, in every aspect, empowering women, the world over, with all of the legal and societal power as men, would solve hunger and poverty, the world over, and go a long way to solving most other problems as well.

    Okay, I wasn't going to do it, but here goes...

    I, like many women, when being mansplained to, adopt an expression of interest and wide-eyed innocence, with a slight, sweet smile added in to complete the look.

    While the man is 'splaining, I nod, cautiously,(as if I'm having difficulty keeping up), meanwhile, going over my grocery list, or something else of actual importance in my mind. I pay just enough attention to repeat a few random phrases back, at strategic places.

    When he's well and truly finished, satisfied that he has 'straightened me out', I go on about my day as if it never happened.

    I have given a small bit of time, to something that women everywhere do every day, ie; continue the never-ending task of propping up the oh so fragile male ego...

    There! The cat's out of the bag now!

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