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Want to be happy and successful? Don’t be an a**hole

Want to be happy and successful? Don’t be an a**hole

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  • There are so few absolutes. One of them: Nobody ever says at a funeral, “He was too generous, too kind, and much too loving.”

  • It’s important to praise others. Good writeup. Always worth a reminder.

  • People who are proud of being extreme types a personalities living a self actualization life style won't get it.

  • "The thing is, the super-successful people I know are usually nicer, more generous, and generally better mannered. The billionaire jerk portrayed in movies and on TV is mostly a cartoon—an animation of something that isn’t real."

    Some companies have already figured this out. Some people have already

    "The thing is, the super-successful people I know are usually nicer, more generous, and generally better mannered. The billionaire jerk portrayed in movies and on TV is mostly a cartoon—an animation of something that isn’t real."

    Some companies have already figured this out. Some people have already figured this out, but still too few. Respect for other people, diversity of ideas, collaboration, constructive criticism, helping people be better, sharing your expertise, these are the new culture of the workplace of today, the classroom of today, the neighborhood of today, the family of today. If you aren't working and living this way by now, then you are stuck in a world from 20 years ago or more. You have not grown up, are not learning how to grow up, and you won't likely be taking advantage of what being a grown up has to offer. The joy of working with other people, helping other people, learning with friends, being friends with your neighbors, living in communities that are healthy and growing, raising kids that are happy and prepared for the challenges of life, friends, school and work. We've heard too many stories of Wall Street or Silicon Valley or Washington or Davos having leaders who are jerks and butt-heads from an era that is no more, that fades from memory as each day passes. I'm sure I was a jerk on many days in high school, in college, in my twenties, but then little things started to change 25 years ago. Alternative music showed us that the boy you were picking on can hit you with a surprise left-hook, and how you can hear your voice that's been here, silent all those years, and understand she's asking you to take your hat off boy when you're talking to me and be there when I feed the tree. It's pretty simple, don't be a jerk, don't let your kids be jerks, don't let your friends be jerks. Be as good a friend as you can, to as many people as you can, for as long as you can.

    (Extra points if you can name the song references)

    Jeff - 2 points, nice. Blink-182 and Belly. Updated now, swapped out All the Small Things, found a better line. Thanks.

  • “Somehow, our insecurity and anger at not being at the level we wish we are at makes us entitled.”

    Wow, I hope that more people can read this, receive it, and make the change to not be so entitled. I know that not everyone will, but this is import to at least acknowledge.

    Saying ‘please and thank you

    “Somehow, our insecurity and anger at not being at the level we wish we are at makes us entitled.”

    Wow, I hope that more people can read this, receive it, and make the change to not be so entitled. I know that not everyone will, but this is import to at least acknowledge.

    Saying ‘please and thank you’ or basic praise is oftentimes forgotten in the workplace, and while I’m not saying you should hand out compliments for just existing, a little positive language CAN actually get your farther.

    One of my mom’s favorite sayings is ‘you attract more bees with honey rather than vinegar’ and today that speaks volumes.

    Here’s to trying to be less of an asshole...for all of us.

  • Love this. The amount of self-induced stress a**holes put on themselves is incredible.

  • Ok, Sean Minuti, here’s my best “no google” try: Blink 182’s “all the small things”, followed by Simon and Garfunkel’s “the sound of silence”, followed by Belly’s “Feed the tree” (an unknown alternative classic, by the way). How did I do? 😬🤟🏻

  • Really a simple lesson to live by. Sad that so many overlook it. But then, being helpful, loving, and gracious even to such people is the best any of us can do.

  • Interesting read! I (perhaps optimistically) agree that kindness will take you farther

  • Beautifully said

  • Wouldn’t it be nice if this was true? It reminds me of something HR would write in my old company, where VPs were pitted against each other in Darwinian games. In general though, I find reality is a better guide - and in mine, business and politics amply demonstrate that assholes may not always rise

    Wouldn’t it be nice if this was true? It reminds me of something HR would write in my old company, where VPs were pitted against each other in Darwinian games. In general though, I find reality is a better guide - and in mine, business and politics amply demonstrate that assholes may not always rise to the top, but being an asshole is rarely an impediment to high office. Can anyone think of an example?