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Aziz Ansari, ‘Cat Person,’ and the #MeToo Backlash

By The Cut

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  • What Ansari did is not assault. But the forces behind it are the same: entitlement and disregard for a woman’s words. Let’s investigate these forces in all of their manifestations.

  • "Instead of thinking of stories like these as “destroying” a man’s life, let’s think of them as sparks that ignite a necessary conversation, for both the women that think “I’ve been there” and the men who look back on their past behavior and feel “surprised and concerned” that everything wasn’t really okay all along."

    Exactly this. So many of us men have either participated in or been complicit in this. We men have to be AWARE (in our actions moving forward),ACCOUNTABLE (in what we do and what we

    "Instead of thinking of stories like these as “destroying” a man’s life, let’s think of them as sparks that ignite a necessary conversation, for both the women that think “I’ve been there” and the men who look back on their past behavior and feel “surprised and concerned” that everything wasn’t really okay all along."

    Exactly this. So many of us men have either participated in or been complicit in this. We men have to be AWARE (in our actions moving forward),ACCOUNTABLE (in what we do and what we did, especially as our female counterparts will bring it up more publicly and privately), and ASK (our female colleagues on if they truly feel ok). Combined with calling out bad behavior, if we can have a message like this, the movement will truly succeed, and more importantly, we will have more male allies that can help.

  • Its all dark and fuzzy (pardon that bad pun) but Aziz has his show and Louis CK does not. The difference is professional v “real life” context. Louis CK jerked it in front of a colleague Aziz was questionable to someone unaffiliated. #metoo originates within professional context and has been appropriated for all sexual harassment. But harassment shouldn’t need to be validated for anything to be fixed. It’s a circular argument where there are no winners.

  • I’m glad for the monstrous conversation around what is sexual assault, roles, power dynamics, communication, sexual mores and so in. There is much work to be done to create clarity and accountability.

  • I have two young daughters that I think will live better lives because of this last year. It wasn’t the easiest but was needed to take a step towards respecting women.

  • This is a balanced piece about an explosive issue that has everyone talking. The main takeaway: As long as we’re all talking, we’re taking appropriate next steps towards whatever shift comes next.

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