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What Race Should My Sperm Donor Be?

What Race Should My Sperm Donor Be?

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  • The author is correct in assuming that blackness is a source of pride but also correct in realizing that it's, distinctively, a harder way to live life. In addition to that, grasping with the idea of giving your child more privilege than you had/have isn't a particularly new concept, and neither is struggling

    The author is correct in assuming that blackness is a source of pride but also correct in realizing that it's, distinctively, a harder way to live life. In addition to that, grasping with the idea of giving your child more privilege than you had/have isn't a particularly new concept, and neither is struggling with truly appreciating black people in America. Those two struggles just seemed to intertwine here creating a really uncomfortable reality for some readers, including myself.

    I do hate the idea that someone could still think that the closer they are to whiteness on the race spectrum then the more likely they are to avoid barriers created for black people. However, that is clearly the rule of thumb in our society. In my opinion, it makes little sense to read her question and judge her, without reading it and simultaneously asking "how do we, as a society, make avoiding your blackness less of a privilege for those who are presented with the opportunity" because right now that clearly isn't the case.

  • I’ve had 2 lovely daughters and I can promise you this .....the main priority and the biggest blessing is having a healthy child. However, we are a generation of choice and we always want a choice since it’s been available to us in different ways. We are very lucky compared to older generations who didn’t

    I’ve had 2 lovely daughters and I can promise you this .....the main priority and the biggest blessing is having a healthy child. However, we are a generation of choice and we always want a choice since it’s been available to us in different ways. We are very lucky compared to older generations who didn’t have all the choices we have today.

  • When freedom FROM choice is more attractive than the freedom OF it. Still, the quandary led to a lovely investigation of belonging.

  • I think this is a timely article and question. If I have the right to choose another race, how do I do the culture justice. Is it cultural appropriation?

  • I kind of don't understand why the race of her sperm donor should have any more bearing on anything than if she had chosen a mate in a regular way? What difference does it make? Of course I understand that she's not falling in love with a piece of paper with a bunch of checkmarks on it, but in this day

    I kind of don't understand why the race of her sperm donor should have any more bearing on anything than if she had chosen a mate in a regular way? What difference does it make? Of course I understand that she's not falling in love with a piece of paper with a bunch of checkmarks on it, but in this day and age shouldn't race be the last box on that list to be checked? If I put myself, as a male, in her shoes, however of course choosing a surrogate mother, the list of attributes that I would be concerned about probably wouldn't include her race. Education, intelligence, health, and perhaps a bunch more things that I can think of off the top of my head, but whether she was white or black or brown or red or yellow or green probably wouldn't figure into it (well maybe green)

  • Strange. Like shopping online for shoes, or a car or a bespoke suit, we're shopping for children and wary of buyer's remorse. Honestly, I do not feel bad for this woman. When you create your own conundrum and cast about looking for affirmation or absolution and you have to put the rest of us through

    Strange. Like shopping online for shoes, or a car or a bespoke suit, we're shopping for children and wary of buyer's remorse. Honestly, I do not feel bad for this woman. When you create your own conundrum and cast about looking for affirmation or absolution and you have to put the rest of us through it seems more selfish than anything else.

  • The curse of social media. Is nothing sacred anymore. You should ask for a healthy baby. The rest is the rest.

  • Human and humane!

  • 10 behind at least thought 2 ahead☺️

  • It reminds me a disgusting scenery of "TED 2"...one of the chronically racist movies.

  • Questions to the generation of a choice...

  • Mazda ahmad@2017gamil.com

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