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How to Make Friends as an Adult — and Why It's Important

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  • Great piece by Mandy Oaklander at Time on the importance of friendships, especially as an adult. As she writes, there’s been an uptick in loneliness in recent years and, as research has shown, that can be deadly. “The antidote is simple: friendship,” writes Oaklander. “It helps protect the brain and

    Great piece by Mandy Oaklander at Time on the importance of friendships, especially as an adult. As she writes, there’s been an uptick in loneliness in recent years and, as research has shown, that can be deadly. “The antidote is simple: friendship,” writes Oaklander. “It helps protect the brain and body from stress, anxiety and depression.” Yes, as she notes, it can be difficult, but you only need a few friends to counter-act the dangers of loneliness. What follows are a few practical tips for making and nurturing adult friendships. “It’s never too late to start being a better pal,” concludes Oaklander. “The work you put into friendships–both new and old–will be well worth it for your health and happiness.”

  • Leaving my friends behind to move to a new city has shaken my confidence. I catch myself thinking, “Does so-and-so like me? Should I text her today or wait?“ We never outgrow adolescence.

  • I believe friendships are just as important to our well-being as exercising and eating healthily, but our lives get so busy these days it is difficult to maintain them or make new friends.

    I must admit I don’t make a very good friend, although I have great friends who have put up with me the last 30

    I believe friendships are just as important to our well-being as exercising and eating healthily, but our lives get so busy these days it is difficult to maintain them or make new friends.

    I must admit I don’t make a very good friend, although I have great friends who have put up with me the last 30 years, as months can go by before I check in with them and miss sharing in a lot of their happy moments. But one thing I have never done is miss out on their sad/difficult moments. Maybe this is why they have put up with me and I am grateful. Let me now go and check in with them. Thank you for the reminder. Great article.

  • It’s surprising that dating apps like tinder haven’t sprung up for people who need friends. It’s a billion dollar idea.

  • Not to be a Debbie Downer, but it makes me wonder how people keep a rosy outlook as they reach their 70’s and 80’s when they see a lot of their friends die. My dad’s friends seem to be dropping like flies —should he look for friends a decade younger?

  • The antidote is simple: friendship. It helps protect the brain and body from stress, anxiety and depression. “Being around trusted others, in essence, signals safety and security,” I couldn’t agree more.

  • I like the part best about letting your passions guide you to people - because at the very least if you don't meet anyone, at least you had fun doing something you normally enjoy doing

  • AGREE! But where exactly are we supposed to meet these people? #havingahardtimeinanewcity

  • Such an important conversation. Fascinating. It reminds us how simple we humans are really, that no matter how sophisticated and complex our lives and tech get, human contact ultimately matters more.

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