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Loretta Chao

Loretta Chao

Founder | Editor at TheSexReporter.com

Former Wall Street Journal reporter, now covering sex. @LorettaChao #equalpleasurerights #medialiteracy

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    One of the costs of living in a society with not only a negative view of sex, but a double standard for discussion of male and female pleasure: “While women privately fume about the costs, drug makers have been able to raise their prices without a public outcry in part because the topic — women’s sex lives and their vaginas — is still pretty much taboo.”

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    I am a firm believer that if you are not black, you do not belong in this debate about whether black people and black artists should retire or reclaim the N-word. It doesn’t matter how well-versed you are on hip hop culture or black history—if you are not black, this is not your decision to weigh in on. Yes, the black community is divided over it. Yes, there are valid points on both sides. No, you do not have to take a side or share your reasons for preferring one over the other. Also, the kid’s

    I am a firm believer that if you are not black, you do not belong in this debate about whether black people and black artists should retire or reclaim the N-word. It doesn’t matter how well-versed you are on hip hop culture or black history—if you are not black, this is not your decision to weigh in on. Yes, the black community is divided over it. Yes, there are valid points on both sides. No, you do not have to take a side or share your reasons for preferring one over the other. Also, the kid’s parents and/or teachers should have taught her better. Blame shitty American education and a culture of complacency for her ignorance, but please don’t ignore or make excuses for it.

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    Happy ending to the story I posted last week about the MTA rejecting ads by Unbound

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    This piece about “Incels” (short for involuntarily celibate) is a must-read. I first heard the term myself on YouTube—as great as that platform is, it’s a community that tends to attract some of the most awful fringe elements of society. They naturally find my content because it relates to sex, so I’ve seen some of the indoctrination described. It’s very real, very scary, and has even led to violence, as we’ve seen with Incels committing acts of terrorism. (Aside from the incidents in this piece

    This piece about “Incels” (short for involuntarily celibate) is a must-read. I first heard the term myself on YouTube—as great as that platform is, it’s a community that tends to attract some of the most awful fringe elements of society. They naturally find my content because it relates to sex, so I’ve seen some of the indoctrination described. It’s very real, very scary, and has even led to violence, as we’ve seen with Incels committing acts of terrorism. (Aside from the incidents in this piece, the recent Toronto attack was also committed by someone who posted about the Incel rebellion.)

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    It’s a nice sentiment that lawmakers recognize women’s right to feel safe in public, but I find it slightly confusing to lump catcalling together with rape in legislation. Also—fines are possibly an effective way to make men more conscious of their impact on the women around them, but I don’t understand how a law in this form would be enforced.

    Would the officer issuing the ticket/fine have to be a witness? Can the catcallers defend themselves in court if they plead innocence? If “wolf whistles

    It’s a nice sentiment that lawmakers recognize women’s right to feel safe in public, but I find it slightly confusing to lump catcalling together with rape in legislation. Also—fines are possibly an effective way to make men more conscious of their impact on the women around them, but I don’t understand how a law in this form would be enforced.

    Would the officer issuing the ticket/fine have to be a witness? Can the catcallers defend themselves in court if they plead innocence? If “wolf whistles” are considered a violation, what about a verbal approach, which many women subjectively deem to be offensive or threatening?

    Backlash against catcalling raises an important discussion but it also raises the issue that not all approaches between strangers are equal. Some interactions truly are harassing (like following a woman in the street, embarrassing her, making lewd comments, threatening or touching her), and should be prosecuted as such. But others that do not pose any apparent danger, like an uninvited greeting, are sometimes considered “catcalls” only if they come from someone who is considered “undesirable” by the alleged victim.

    Often, the same comments in a different setting by a different person (say, in line at a coffee shop by someone who is if a particular demographic) are not lumped together with sexual harassment and violence. These assessments are, unfortunately, frequently based on class and race.

    Perhaps, in the case of catcalling at least, education advocating empathy from both sides would be more effective.

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    Advertisers for everything from self help books to museums and sexual wellness products have told me decisions at the MTA around whether or not their content is too racy are completely arbitrary. The same is the for most popular social networks. This story shows the latest casualty, a campaign created by New York-based sex toy company Unbound.

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    “Anti-sex trafficking” legislation is already having a chilling effect on the sex tech industry, which is an indication of how its indirect censoring effects will play out on the Internet more broadly. These companies already face a lot of challenges from getting funding to promoting themselves on equal footing with other types of startups. #sextech #sexed #fosta #politics

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